How do we change... anything?

Politics, language, racism, sexism, the dynamics between me and you, and all of us?
We are used to telling it straight on: 𝐅𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭-𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞: I want you to change, a particular thing, a habit, your weight, your attitude.
How long do these changes last, if they were even accepted at all?

𝐒𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐝-𝐨𝐫𝐝𝐞𝐫 𝐂𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞:
Have you ever observed someone going through internal transformations, how they have brightened up, got stronger, and clearer on what they want?

When I turned 30 I reflected on my life and saw that I have learned that through changing myself, I have greatly improved my relating and 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩 to 𝐦𝐲𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟, my 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝𝐬, my 𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬, and also my 𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬! I've chosen to be courageous amidst the greatest (thoughts of) 𝐟𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐟𝐚𝐢𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠 to 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐮𝐞 a »career change« and be a coach to processes like this! 

And I am humbled and deeply moved to have concluded my first 1:1 coaching series yesterday and to have seen this man become more present, lively, alert, and aware, taking on full form of his being, forming his goals, facing his fears, taking on his obstacles, and move on in great lengths. If 𝐝𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐡 would come tomorrow I would say I have done great. I am proud of myself. 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐛𝐥𝐞. and it always 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 »𝐦𝐞«, that is, 𝙮𝙤𝙪 dear reader. bless you, bless your life and the path you’re on. you’re always welcome to 𝐣𝐮𝐦𝐩 𝐨𝐧 𝐦𝐲 𝐜𝐚𝐫𝐫𝐢𝐚𝐠𝐞 and let me coach you for a while, dear traveler. love and gratitude.